Coffee Date #14: Hope

On glimmers of light

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I’m writing this on 20th January at about 2PM GMT. This means that it’s about 3 hours until Joe Biden gets sworn in as the new President of the United States. You might wonder why a British blogger is writing about American politics, but I think it’s pretty clear at this point that American politics have a profound impact on the rest of the world, too.

Like millions of people across the world, I felt as though I could barely breathe as I watched events unfold in the US in early November. The prospect of another four years of the Trump administration was - to say the absolute least - viscerally terrifying to enormous numbers of people in the States and elsewhere. If you’re in any doubt at how much this election mattered, just look at the joy and relief that erupted when the result became clear.

I don’t think anyone is naive enough to believe that almost-President Biden is perfect, or that he will be able to undo overnight all the damage Trump has spent the last four years doing. However, what this result and today’s inauguration represents to so many people is hope. Hope that fascism doesn’t have to win. Hope that more people are good and kind than are not. Hope that things can improve.

Harvey Milk said, “you have to give them hope.” He was referring to the young queer people of America who were living in fear and silence in the 1970s, but these words are still so pertinent in 2021. Hope is one of the most powerful weapons we have.

The COVID-19 vaccine has brought hope to many, including me and my loved ones. It’ll be many months before all of us have it, and probably still some time before we start seeing the results enough to get back to our lives. But the vaccine demonstrates a definitive path out of all this - a path we didn’t have last spring or summer or autumn.

So the pandemic isn’t over, but we have hope now, thanks to the vaccine. Many things in America and globally are still broken, and unlikely to get better overnight - but the end of the Trump administration provides a glimmer of the hope that we all so desperately need.

Hope isn’t enough, but it’s a start. Hope gives us the strength we need to keep going and to support each other and to keep fighting.

So whatever is next, let’s hang on to hope and continue to give it to each other at every opportunity.

This week on the blog

I took a break over Christmas so only two posts to share this time.

  • I’ve been writing a series of mini reviews for The Butters Hygienics Co. Check out the series here and use my code “coffeeandkink” to get 10% off your purchase.

  • I reviewed CLIMAX, an awesome no-bs educational video series on pleasure for people with vulvas.

  • I reviewed the Comet Wand, a fabulous double-ended glass and silicone dildo.

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Reads, watches, listens

Reading… I just finished Know My Name, the autobiography of Chanel Miller - who was previously known as Emily Doe, the woman Brock Turner sexually assaulted in 2015. The book is beautifully written and quietly devastating in its power. As a survivor, I’m glad I read it but also feel completely torn open by it. Fellow survivors: please take care of yourselves if you choose to engage. If you’re not a survivor, please take the time to read this evocative and important book if you can - you will understand the survivors in your life better if you do.

Watching… My partner and I are currently working our way through the second season of His Dark Materials. It continues to be delightful, visually beautiful, and appropriately true to the books. Plus it features plenty of Oxford (my favourite city in the world) and the absolute gem that is Lin-Manuel Miranda as Lee Scoresby.

Listening… I was notified of the existence of the “Bye Trump” playlist on Spotify this morning and have been dancing along to it at my desk all day! Recommended if you want to take today to indulge in some joy (which, frankly, we all deserve.)

Last word

I hope, wherever you are and whatever you’re doing when you read this, that you take a moment to pause and breathe and feel a sense of hope for what is coming.

I love you. You’ve got this.

See you in 2 weeks.

Amy x